How to Balance Your Relationship with College?

Life at Zhelter
2 min readSep 8, 2021

It is quite so common for a student in a relationship to talk on calls and texts for long hours. The early curiosity and the excitement arising from hormones are uncontrollable. Partners keep missing each other which leads to frequent conversations. This slowly becomes an addictive habit. Working couples also go through this. But since the external influence of their job weighs on their minds, it remains within the boundaries. For students, some responsibilities are easy to be procrastinated. Thus, students find themselves spending more than usual time on their relationships.

Here are five points that can help you maintain balance in your life when your relationship is at a nascent stage:

  1. In-Person is Better: If you can, you should try to spend time more in-person rather than on calls/texts. Firstly, the communication is smoother. Misunderstandings are minimal. You get to assess whether you actually like your partner overall or not. One reason for the non-stop calls/chats is the urge to meet your partner. Spending time together helps with that and you can carry on your day peacefully after it.
  2. Do Stuff Together: Happy couples spend more time doing things together rather than spending the same amount of time talking. The activity can be anything, say walk, eating food together, going on a trip, studying together, etc. The conversations happen during these activities themselves.
  3. Give it Due Time: You should relish your nascent bond the way you do a delicious meal. Don’t gorge all at once. Save some topics and conversations for the future. Almost everyone gets exhausted after interacting constantly for 1 hour. The more amount you spend every day talking, the more quality and depth of your conversations will decrease.
  4. Most College Relationships Fail: The author is not asking you to be pessimistic. But seldom you’ll find couples whose present relationships go back to their college years. If you take things slowly and compromise your time, retrospectively you’ll have lesser regrets if things don’t work out in the future.
  5. Schedule Conversations: While you may have heard it everywhere, this really helps. Planning your interactions and their durations helps both the partners from exhaustion couples start feeling from over-communication. This exhaustion slowly spills over to the happier parts of the relationship resulting in frequent arguments, taunts, etc.

If you can delay gratification in your relationship, you’ll notice it has more spark. The bond will provide bliss. You’ll find yourself more productive, happier and positive all day.

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